What is love? (The ramblings of a lost romantic)

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All creatives inherently have a romantic side, I'm not ashamed to say that I am a hopless romantic.

I blame Hollywood.

I thought I would share a story of the girl who I thought was the love of my life. We were together for nearly three years, which probably doesn't sound like long to many people, but felt like a lifetime to me. I thought the world of this girl, and treated her like my queen every single day. We were best friends and equals. Yes we had our problems, but we always managed to work through it and it would make our relationship stronger.

But alas, all good things must come to an end. She fell out of love with me, and broke my heart. I won't bore you with the details. Needless to say, we went our separate ways.

I haven't spoken to her since.

I've since become a a bit of a cynic after that relationship, and haven't believed wholly and trully in love like I used to. Don't open up, trust, or really put myself out there anymore. I've begun to think that "love" like I once thought it was, does not exist. OK I understand that love is not a happy ending movie where the couple rides away into the sunset on the back of a white stallion. I understand that love means compromise and working through each others' differences to better yourselves. But come on, I mean the rest of what love means isn't all just a concoction of a very clever marketing team... Right? Surely there is some sort of way to describe it, and not just in a teenage infatuated sense, but can anyone truly describe what love is?

I shot the video for a wedding a few weeks ago, and it got me thinking about this question even more. I asked the bride and groom a very simple question "What does love mean to you?", and neither of them could give me a straight answer! Even though they both utterly adored eachother and had just made the biggest commitment that one person can make to another, they didn't really know what love is...


So I shall let the reader answer this question, what does love mean to you?

Created: Feb 23, 2014

Tags: what is love?, question, romantic, essay, romance, love, hopeless romantic, writing, story

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